Radiant LoversOne of the beautiful things about relationships is that they aren’t all the same, which means the relationship goals you have as a couple aren’t the same either.
Couples don’t all look the same, and the two people in the relationship aren’t the same either.
They’re independent individuals that come together to create a beautiful relationship, together.
Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a few months, few years or a few decades, one of the ways to make sure your relationship is a priority, is a healthy relationship, and stays ‘fresh’ is to set goals together.
While you may have your own idea of what you want your relationship goals to be, setting your goals together as a couple can be incredibly powerful, and can help make sure you’re both on the same page.
Your relationship goal isn’t just a trending hashtag to share on social media or something you share with others, it needs to be what you should include in your relationship to make it stronger and to deepen your connections.
So here are some examples of goals all couples should have to inspire you to create your own goals:
1 – Put Each Other First
Putting each other first means that you’re paying attention to each other’s needs and making sure they are being met. Just for an Example;-I put my partner first before making any decisions just to hear his opinion about the step i am about to take, not like I can’t decide on my own, I just feel it’s the right, the same applies to him also. You love seeing each other happy and would do anything to see them smile. You protect each other, love each other and support each other.
By putting each other’s needs first, you remove the selfish aspect of a relationship, knowing that your needs are being cared for and met by each other. The important thing to remember here is that this only works if you both put each other first.
2 – Treat ‘Together’ Time With As Much Importance As ‘Alone’ Time
When you’re in the early stages of your relationship it’s easy to spend all of your time together. Everything is fresh and exciting and new and you just want to get to know each other in every way. After a while, it becomes clear that spending all of your time together isn’t sustainable and that you both need time alone to recharge and refill your cup. Alone time is incredibly important. It doesn’t mean you don’t want to spend time together.
It just means that you know that spending time alone helps recharge your batteries, helps you maintain your individuality (what made you fall in love with each other in the first place), allows breathing space and encourages a closer connection with each other when you do spend time together. Make sure you both talk to yourself about everything.
The key here is making sure that you’re spending quality time together too, not just sitting next to each other while scrolling social media. While that can be relaxing, it’s important to spend quality time together, talk to yourselves about everything. For me, I find it hard scrolling through my social media once i am with my partner because we always have something to discuss though that doesn’t mean i don’t make use of my phone once i am with him, i do but not when we are discussing. Just make sure you spend time with your partner.
This might mean that you need to make time by clearing something else from your schedule, but it will always be worth it.
3 – Know And Understand Each Other’s Love Language
If you haven’t heard of the 5 Love Languages yet, consider this your introduction. You’re welcome.
The general idea is that each and everyone of us have a love language that we speak and like to be spoken to in, that fosters how we show and receive love. The reason why this is so paramount in a relationship is because your partner could be showing you love in their love language, but if you don’t understand that, you could be feeling ignored because they aren’t speaking your love language.
For example, if your partner always refuels your car for you and checks your tyres, but all you want is for him to hurry up and get home so you can talk to them, then you’re speaking two different love languages.
This is huge for couples. When you know what your love language is, this information can be used to help understand how you both give and receive love and you can ask questions, address any issues, and talk about your thoughts when it comes to showing loving affection. Make time to talk to each other about your love language and how it applies to each of you and your individual styles and find ways for you to apply it to your everyday lives. Just make sure you guys are showing yourselves love.
4 – Always Do New Things Together
Sure, alone time is great but together time is where magic happens too! After a while, things can become quite mundane as you move through the day to day tasks of life and before you know it, you could end up in a bit of a rut. Instead, try to do new things together, have exciting adventures or even take turns to choose what you want to do and then do it together.
From pottery classes to dancing lessons, cooking, baking, going on a date, take a walk, traveling to massages, anything is possible! Make a list of all the things you want to do, want to try, or want to learn, and add to it whenever you think of something new. Then tick things off as you go and you’ll never be bored or stuck for things to do together.
5 – Be Each Other’s Biggest Supporters
One of the best things about being in a relationship is that you always have someone in your corner. Regardless of how extreme or crazy your dreams are, your partner should be your biggest supporter. Mine is my biggest supporter, always ready to hear me out and encourage me, He has been my biggest cheerleader and go-to person.
Knowing that the person you love believes in you is a massive motivation to achieve your goals, no matter how big they are. Both men and women need to feel emotionally supported, and while we can generalize about what women want versus what men want when it comes to emotional support, the best thing you can do is literally ask each other.
Make time to talk about what emotional support looks like to you, what you need, when you need it, and devise ways you can provide this support for each other.
Focus on working towards being amazing partners for each other, showing how much you appreciate each other’s constant support, and continue to treat each other with kindness.
To be continued…
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