Radiant LoversTHINGS SMART WOMEN DON’T DO IN LOVE.
First, who is a smart woman?
A smart woman has the ability to study, remember, and apply what she knows. Her intelligence allows her to solve issues and rapidly adjust to new situations.
I read a story of a man which goes…
“I was married to a very beautiful woman—I wasn’t happy. I never felt like she loved me for who I was. I was always trying to please her and she was never completely happy with me. There was always some kind of fault or deficiency that I needed to redress. I fought for 15 years to win her approval, but it never seemed to happen.
I was married to a very intelligent woman—I wasn’t happy. I always felt that it was more of a business partnership than it was a romantic connection between two people. I wanted love and passion and to be excited to wake up in the morning with her in my bed. I didn’t feel that love and passion towards her and ultimately I wasn’t faithful to her and the marriage ended.
Now I am with a woman that is beautiful and intelligent and I am, perhaps for the first time, feeling like this is the relationship that I need to treasure and keep sacred. Why? Not because she is beautiful—I know from experience that beauty fades quickly. Not because she is intelligent—I know that personal intelligence doesn’t do anything to make me happy. No, instead I treasure her because she loves me and she shows it to me pretty much every single day.
She is sometimes stubborn. She is sometimes very unreasonable. There are times when I just want to get up and walk out of the house. But…and this is the important part…not once have I ever doubted that I am the most important thing in the world to her. And, for me, that makes all the difference. You see, what will make you happy in the final analysis is not how you feel about your partner but instead how your partner makes you feel about yourself. If your partner makes you feel intelligent, sexy, beautiful, respected…whatever it is that is important to you…then that is the person you absolutely must be with.
It doesn’t matter if your partner is beautiful or intelligent…it just doesn’t. None of that matters. What matters is how that person feels about you. And, if your partner receives the same kind of love and support from you—in the way that matters to him or her—then you’ve got the formula for one of the happiest marriages on the planet. Love with everything you’ve got—hold nothing back—and make sure to cherish him or her as your most precious treasure. You’ll have a great life.”
Social conditioning has created a very precarious situation in dating as regards boundaries, expectations, and physicality.
Don’t let anyone tell you it’s “too hard” for someone as smart as you to meet a partner and definitely don’t dim your light to make yourself.
One thing i know for sure, is that Smart women are not cold-hearted—when they fall in love, they fall as hard as the rest of us.
1. They never lower their standards ·
2. They don’t chase a man for love ·
3. They don’t beg for affection or attention
As a smart woman…
DON’T CRITIZE YOUR MAN.
Smart women understand that the man beside them is independent and strong; they don’t need to dictate what he should do and they don’t criticize him.
DON’T TALK TOO MUCH ABOUT HIS EX.
Insisting on knowing too much about his ex only reveals a lack of confidence in yourself.
INVEST TIME IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
No matter how busy you are with your career, dedicating time is crucial for a successful relationship.
DON’T NEGLECT YOUR FRIENDS OR HIS FRIENDS.
Your boyfriend may not be with you forever, so don’t ignore your friends.
AVOID PRESURIZING HIM.
Regardless of the time Spent together, avoid pushing for children or marriage. If he’s not ready to discuss it, respect his pace.
MANAGE JEALOUSY
While every woman experiences a bit of jealousy, be reasonable and show him that you trust him.
STAY INDEPENDENT
To be taken seriously, make him work for your affection and demonstrate that you’re not an easy target.
ACCEPT HIM AS HE IS.
Smart women respect their partner’s personality and don’t attempt to change it…
To you all, If you have a choice to make then marry a smart woman. Marrying only for beauty is not a good idea. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. You might be disappointed as you grow older if your criteria is only beauty. Old age can be very harsh on beauty.
“Once upon a time, There was this very famous personality (forgetting the name) and he was very ugly. I mean very ugly. But very intelligent (that’s what they said). He was approached by a very beautiful gorgeous woman, but very dumb. She proposed marriage. He seemed reluctant. She reasoned.
She said, “See when we marry and have kids, they will have my beauty and your brains, wouldn’t that be wonderful.”
He said, “When we marry and have kids, it could even be possible that they have my looks and your brains. That will be a total tragedy. Then what!’
Beauty without brains is a disaster and beauty with brains is the best deal.
A smart woman, will bring comfort and solutions to unseen, unexpected situations and problems that come with living.
A sharp, clever and insightful wife is a great asset, so said the sages of yore.
In all… They Don’t Settle for Less Than They Deserve”.
Radiant Lovers
